This and That, Embracing the Duality

Human Design shows us that everything in existence is part of a duality.  There is always the “this” and the “that”.  Human Design explains that we live in a Bi-Verse.  We see it in the bodygraph itself – the Personality and Design activations.  They are both two different calculations, but co-existing inside our forms.  This is where we sometimes encounter dilemmas in our experience, where one part of us has the imperative for one experience, in seeming contrast to another aspect of our being.  I call this the “grass is greener” syndrome.   I used to notice this especially when I was alone and wanted to be around other people, but when I was with others, I wanted to be alone again. My single definition would crave that singularity to recharge, but then my gate of intimacy (59th gate) was urging to bond.  Like anything in Design, awareness is key is this is where the heart of the paradox is found.

Recently, I’ve been observing our tendencies to become very polarized and attach to one end of the spectrum.  Our minds have a tendency to want to label things with a stamp of morality.  The good and bad, the black and white. We want to make conclusions about others. That is what the mind does best.

What struck me recently was when I was reviewing some of the Role Gates.  For example, the 6th Gate is a Role Gate, which we all have and which determines aspects of how we bond with others.  It comes out of the Solar Plexus which operates on an emotional wave, so any gate coming out of the Solar Plexus is naturally already going from high to low, from hope to despair, etc.   

A 6th line being, for example, will go on a wave between Sympathy to Apathy.  It made so much sense to me why sometimes my 6th line friends seem so caring, but then so aloof and distant.  Looking back, I recognized my mind’s tendency to want to affix a moral stamp on them, depending on which side of the wave they had recently been on and my whole mental view wanting to change to adapt and fix a label.  “Oh they are so kind and really do mean well and have such a big heart”, to “They don’t really care, it’s all a show, definitely not authentic, just a mask”.  But we all have these waves and polarities, all of us.  I’m a third line personality and that resonates to the themes of allegiance/rejection.  Being honest with myself and how this genetic bonding strategy expresses, I can see that wave in myself.  I bond and form allies, and then I close up and reject and move on to find a fresh start, to put it in simple terms.  So anyway, these dualities live within us, as ways that our genes operate and express through our personalities.  We can’t control it.

 So I have been watching the tendency to attach to one end of the polarity and form conclusive statements.  When I watch it, it dissolves and I wait.  I wait for life to keep changing and expressing itself differently and embrace it all as part of the duality. 

I’ve been afraid of the word and idea of “Duality” because in the new age mindset and conditioning, it is the duality of the human experience that keeps us separate from the whole.  But coming to embrace the Duality as something that comes out of the One, out of the whole spectrum and holistic perspective of life, gives me a renewed and relaxed understanding that allows me to be with awareness and helps me to practice waiting.  And in the waiting, that is where the magic happens.  Life keeps unfolding and renewing itself.   And that is where the awareness, that I AM, reveals itself.  This is where, as the passenger, I can truly enjoy the ride.

Generators Need To Be Asked

I’ve been doing readings as a certified analyst for several years now.  Many times I will check in or hear from my clients a few months after their initial Foundation Reading.  One thing I hear from some Generators is that they are still feeling frustrated about many things.  There is still a stuck energy with work, with relationships, with how to move forward in life.  So where is the resistance happening in their experiment? After some inquiry, I am seeing a few of the missing links. 

Generators need to be asked.  You cannot ask yourself questions with your own mind.  There are no shortcuts to bypassing the mind.  The Sacral Center operates through response, not through initiating!  You cannot go on quietly trying to push forward, making daily decisions that you have not run past your Sacral Center.  So what steps can you take today to make these changes and start living out your Strategy?

 1)   Have allies.  Generators need their people around them who understand the experiment and the value of being asked.  An ally is probably not someone enmeshed in the outcome of your answer, but someone who can be neutral and non-moralistic towards whatever comes out of your mouth.  Really, they do not even need to know about Human Design, but if they can recognize the value of being an ally who evokes a correct decision making process, then they can be correct for you.

2)   Teach the people in your life to honor you as a Generator and ask you questions or give you options.  It sounds so simple, right?  It could be something like, “Hey (friend or loved one), I realize that I really get in touch with my truth when I can hear my response from being asked a question.  Can you ask me more questions?  Can you rephrase that as a question so I can hear what comes out?”  Something, anything like that, but it has to start with you being asked.  The age of being told what to do is over. The next time someone tells you what to do or demands an answer out of the blue, that is another opportunity to educate them that you need to be respected as a Generator, in your own words, of course.

3)   Respond to your responses.  When we are asked, we have a chance to hear our Sacral Response, but not all responses work that way. Sometimes it is not always 100% clear what is an authentic Sacral Response and what is a response from the mind.  Sometimes in life, we do just have to take a step in some direction.  What if you think it was an authentic response, but as you take action, you meet resistance and things feel off or do not flow?  Respond to your response! Change your course and take it as a learning experience to get to know and recognize the subtleties of the Response mechanism.  It is an experiment after all.  I love the idea of “responding to my responses” because it doesn’t leave me frozen in my tracks, but creates some movement and awareness to check out what happens and how I enter into any situation.  Since “response” is happening all the time and we aren’t always asked, this is a more subtle recognition where we can develop awareness.